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Beginner’s Bondage & Sex Toys

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A beginners guide to bondage and sex toys

If you’re one of the many people who looks at sex shop site categories and becomes overwhelmed, you’re not alone. There are so many toys, tools and terms that understanding the purpose of some of the equipment can take considerable effort.
Here are some of the definitions to our bondage categories to help provide you with some insight!

Ball Gag

A ball gag designed to muffle the wearer. Usually strapped around or over the head with a rubber ball that sits inside the wearer’s lips and teeth. This is to give a sense of submission. Because the wearer can not talk, the wearer has to become more creative with communication and their partner better at understanding their lover’s requirements during play. Gags usually do not impede breathing but there are some out there. So, start off small, become comfortable , then upgrade!
Other types of gags include bits, hooks, rings and ratchets. (make links?)

Bedroom Bondage Kit

Cheaper and often better solutions for beginner bondage scenarios. These kits are usually marketed towards beginners as they generally include a pair of ankle cuffs, wrist cuffs, a blindfold and some form of whip, flogger or paddle. That’s not to say these kits don’t not come with some form of other bondage gear. Here at Kink Castle we custom create bondage kits or run specials that will include items you won’t often find in commercial kits. Such as (kink castle starter bondage kit?)
These kits can be wonderful way of cheaply building up your bondage collection.

Blind fold

Blind folds prevent the wearer from seeing anything, leaving them to rely on other senses. They can be styled in a classic sleep mask or as a simple scarf that requires tying.
Since the wears sight is restricted, this can increase sensitivity to touch, taste, smell and sound. Blind folds can also increase the confidence of the wearer as they find themselves to be less self conscious and more open to experimentation.

Bondage candle

Bondage candles are specifically designed with a lower melting point than standard household candles, allowing you to experiment with wax play at a safe temperature. Some bondage candles contain nourishing oils that make for a great massage after wax play, also great for the skin!
Bondage candles are great for psychological play as the recipient be expecting a hot burn and not a warm sensation. Please do not use house candles on your first time.

Bondage hood

A bondage hood is not the same as a blindfold. These hoods can cover half the head and face or all of it. Since these tend to cover more of the wearers face, it makes for great sensory deprivation play.
They come in different styles for different purposes, some without mouth, nose or eye holes, some completely made out of cloth and some have in built in gags.

Bondage rope and tape

Bondage rope is usually made from silk to be gentle on the skin and flexible for when tying up a lover. Since they’re usually made from silk, intricate knots are easily tied and can be undone by the person doing the binding.
Bondage tape designed specifically to use on a person to bind them or to create clothing. It is self adhesive, offering a skin-safe alternative to other tapes but do try a test patch on bare skin first to avoid reactions.

Chastity device

These devices are fitted over the genitalia to prohibit sexual function or access.
Some of these are worn for visual effect but many of them will permit long term wear by the user, allowing bodily functions whilst still preventing all sexual contact.

Clitoral clamp (clit clamp)

These can be found in various forms, either a charm that hangs from the clitoral hood or a small device that clamps directly onto the clitoris. This results in a mixture of pleasure and pain from the movement of the hanging device. The pain caused by a clit clamp is more of a long numbing pain, like with the pussy pump, it creates great sexual arousal. Clit clamps can cause enlargement of the clitoris which can greatly increase pleasure once the device is off.

Cock cage and cock strap

Often used for role play, some of these can be used as a cock ring which offers better stimulation for your lover and gives a lasting erection for the wearer. Some cock cages and straps are used to stretch or temporarily deform the appearance of the penis and scrotum. This can causing a numbing pain that leads to the penis or scrotum being overly sensitive for greater pleasure.

Collar and Lead

The collar alone is often a symbol of ownership, though many wear collars as decorative pieces now. Some collars feature lockable buckles which prevent removal by anyone that doesn’t have the key, giving the feeling of helpless or being owned. Many collars are fitted with a ring which allows a lead or harness to be attached. From there, the user can control the wearer by moving them around using the lead or bind them down.

Electro sex toys

Electro sex toys use electricity as a stimulus, weather it be for pain or pleasure. These electro sex toys give off a sensation similar to vibrations deep within skin. Levels are variable so also start off low and work your way up. Weather you want low on going stimulation or intense small shocks. These toys come with many attachments with everything from butt plugs, dildos, bullet vibrators, gloves , spanking paddles, nipple clamps and many more!

Feather tickler

Feather ticklers are often used for foreplay to heighten senses and cause a sense of anticipation for sexual contact. The feeling of feather gently and softly over the skin excites the nerve endings generally causing goosebumps and making the area temporarily sensitive to touch.

Flogger

A flogger is brilliant during foreplay, just run the fronds up and down your lovers skin, then whip! Since a flogger has serval surfaces which hit roughly at the same time, the force of the hit is spread out over a large area making it less painful than a whip.

Handcuffs

Handcuffs are another great form of restraint. They are usually made of metal to form the standard police restraint, with a chain. However there are many more styles on the market! Some are made from leather and have soft fur on the inside to make the restraint more comfortable for a long period of time and some are made interchangeable so thy can be worn around the ankles and aches to a post.

Bondage Mask

Most masks are worn to conceal the identity of the wearer and transform the appearance of the wear for mystery. You’ll find these being worn at most swinger parties and fetish events to avoid being recognised, especially with film and photos being so easy access at the ready

Medical fetish

This is a term that can incorporate anything considered to be medical in nature. These can include but are not restricted to adult incontinence, gynaecological equipment, dental ratchets, douches, syringes, needles, pinwheels, piercing clamps, latex gloves, proctoscopes, forceps, urethral sounds and cupping sets plus anything you can imagine!

Nipple clamps and nipple suckers/pumps

Nipple suckers or nipple clamps work by clipping onto and hanging off the nipple or using some sort of sickroom device to suck onto the nipple and pull. These will cause a slight ongoing pain that causes numbness to the nipple which will increase sensitivity for a more pleasurable experience. You can also purchase vibrating nipple clamps which will enhance the sensation further by the ongoing vibrations.

Sex machine

Sex machines are usually electrical in design and are designed to simulate thrusting movements to allow penetrative sex as they would with a partner. The great thing about sex machines is that you can change the settings of the thrusting to something otherworldly!

Spanking paddle

A spanking paddle is flat with a hand, found with varied textures and can be electrical. Varied textures cause different sensations, most made from leather to be softer on the skin and provides an audible thwack.

Whip

A whip is usually a thin, singular surface that will cause pain. Whips come in all different lengths, shapes and some may have something attached to the end (like a riding crop). These are designed to inflict pain, as the sting left over is much sharper than a paddle or a flogger.

Wrist restraints and ankle restraints

These restraints can be worn in many different ways and are probably these best item for a beginner wanting to be restrained. Most are made from satin or silk for comfortability whilst being restrained for a long period of time. Made for wrist to neck, wrist to ankle, wrist to neck, the variations are endless!

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